Unity Consciousness & Bioneuroemoción®
The shadow refers to an autonomous psychic system that delimits what is the “I” and what is not. They are the negative aspects of our personality, the sum of those unpleasant qualities that we should hide and the insufficiently developed functions, including the collective ones that range from the set of social and moral values to the family.
The Shadow only represents those attributes or qualities unknown or little known by our EGO. In some cases the shadow also contains collective factors from outside the life of the individual, from small we differentiate what we “have or should do”, what “we do NOT have or should not do”, to conform our personality in relation to these premises . The way in which these apprenticeships are carried out is very subtle. If we observe, for example, a behavior in our parents when we take certain topics of conversation and our parents are silent or distort the face, we can intuit that the topic of conversation is not adequate, this will make us integrate a behavior: that it is better not to talk about certain issues in the presence of family or other people, thus leaving our communication capacity in the shadow.
Little by little, we find a personality that makes us special and differentiates us from others and this is fundamental for the conformation of the ego within a family and social context. The problem comes when we enter into an imbalance in the person-shadow relationship, and this can manifest itself as excess or defect.
If the shadow takes control of our lives without a structured ego, we will be unable to manage our impulses in a social or family context and we will function unconsciously feeling separated from the world, and there may be so many restrictions and patterns that we disconnect from our impulses and we feel empty and without energy, that for the day we have an exemplary behavior and at night we compensate it by being violent. An example of shadow integration can be someone who is professionally “boxing”, part of his shadow considered “violent” appears in a controlled manner, with rules and within a context in which it is allowed.
Connecting with the shadow means connecting with situations with a high emotional content, where, in those situations, we have had a painful behavior or experience that helped us to adapt to our environment, but which from the perspective of the adult have become obsolete.
When the shadow appears, there is an effect similar to that of a suit that has become too small for you but you are afraid to take it off because you do not want feel naked. It is usual that many of the childlike traits such as joy, trust, innocence, have suddenly disappeared without knowing at what point it happened or how this may affect us in our adulthood, so the shadow remains with the forgotten depths of the soul, with life and vitality; there can be established contact with the superior, the creative and the universally human.