Unity Consciousness & Bioneuroemoción®
There are different ways to identify the shadow and thus be able to observe ourselves and learn from our shadow:
Observe our projections:
it is the fastest way to connect with our shadow. We can observe that it is not only the aspects that we do not like in others but also that which attracts us from the other.
Either option contains parts of ourselves that we can not see or develop. Negative feelings about others, disproportionate anger, or the responses or feedback we receive from others are ways of becoming aware of our shadow.
When we are able to accept others and integrate other traits such as aggression, tenderness or sensuality, we will be expanding our own “I”.
Examples to know our shadow:
What bothers us about others? What we do not tolerate under any circumstances? What we can not stand in a friend or a co-worker? What group of people hates us? Who or who are responsible? of something negative in the world? Who is our idol and what do we like about it? What do we value about someone close to us?
By observing the answers to these questions we can understand our shadow.
Observe what is behind us that embarrasses us:
Imagine what we would not like them to know about us, what we cover of our current life or perhaps of our past, what we do not allow ourselves to share with our partners or friends, those aspects of our personality that shame us, even our physical aspect that somehow we try to cover in some way, this fact of covering it, far from solving the conflict, all it does is postpone or postpone the problem and make it bigger.
We do not show these parts of ourselves for fear of being rejected, without realizing that we are already projecting rejection of a facet of ourselves that we consider inappropriate, this will sooner or later make us experience our own judgment, that is, live this rejection in our environment.
What is the most shameful of us? What part of our personality shames us? What is it that we find hard to accept from what we have lived? What situations or aspects of our lives do we hide from others for fear of being judged?
At what point in our lives have we not lived up to the circumstances? By observing the answers to these questions we can understand our SHADOW and the information we repress there.
Observe our addictions:
Addictions also hide part of our shadow. The addiction is characterized by the compulsive repetition of an activity, an excess, which can be self-destructive and not very adaptive for our social development. These addictions do not have to have chemical substances, can range from doing five hours of sports to being connected to social networks all the time. addiction gives us a physical and mental state that we have not learned to manage it in another way, being a shortcut or easy way to reach a state of compensation in relation to something that is not being managed.
What are we addicted to? How do we evade our problems? What do we get with our addiction? What prevents us from reacting differently? What state do we not allow ourselves to feel and achieve thanks to addiction?
Observing the physical symptoms:
our body is connected to the unconscious and reflects our emotional states in different ways, then by observing our symptoms we will see what message our body is transmitting to us and what our physical state is saying about us. What does our body transmit to us? What can this symptom tell us? What stress situation has happened in our emotional environment that we have experienced prior to the symptomatology?
Observing us during middle age:
in this stage of life a transformation process can happen or start. In this phase the shadow can present itself in different ways, physical symptoms, depressive states, feeling of laziness, etc. It is a phase in which we should rethink the commitment we have acquired with ourselves to decide which parts of us we want to start developing, since it is at this stage that the shadow is with us.
For example, some reflections: what moves us to undertake a new life? How is this change in me expressed? What life do I aspire to have? Who do I want to be from now? What parts of me would I like to develop? What have I been deprived or prevented during these years?
Observing our dreams:
Dreams often act as a bridge between our conscious and our Unconscious, since in dreams a great amount of symbolic and emotional contents are developed that are sometimes difficult to interpret. Paying attention to our dreams, both pleasant and unpleasant or stressful, can serve as a clue to know what we want to make or develop of ourselves. What appears in our dreams? What can it have to do with what scares you in your external life? What scares you in relation to what motivates you? What relationships do you need to rethink? Who appear?