Unity Consciousness & Bioneuroemoción®
Let us pause to think for a moment on our most organic, biological and objective origin, that which is measurable, verifiable and tangible. Each one of us comes from the culmination of a sexual relationship between two people.
However, what bodily sensation do we experience if, for a moment, we visualize the scene in which the phenomenon of our existence arose? In most cases it will trigger a feeling of rejection, repulsion or perhaps we will classify it as perverted, unnatural or unpleasant.
On many occasions, the mere fact of talking about sex is a source of flush, surprise, anger and even censorship. Sexuality belongs to the realm of intimacy and should not be shared. It seems that it should remain in the shadow, in the home of each person, in the unconscious of the individual.
A living being is defined by its ability to grow, feed and reproduce, being a basic and common pillar to all the beings that inhabit the earth. So, why is the biological need for reproduction not addressed as naturally as food or growth?
In the mythology that predominates in our social unconscious, the Judeo-Christian, sexuality is seen as the first of shames, at the same time, being naked, one in front of another, without guilt, without shame, is a way of returning to our nature more original.
We all know limiting beliefs about sexuality:
“it can only be enjoyed when it is accompanied by love”, “it should only be used as a means to reproduce ourselves”, “who does it much is such a thing …”, “who does so little is such another thing…”.
Not so many years ago that in schools they warned children that, if they masturbated, they could go blind or offend God, these beliefs or guidelines are part of our society, and we can observe them in multiple behaviors at the educational, social, political and even legal levels.
As a result of this reflection, several questions arise:
Why has it been so important to repress this human facet in the society in which we live?
What holds the sexuality that makes it so present, so powerful and so feared at the same time?
The development of adult sexuality occurs in adolescence at the same time as the differentiation of the individual with respect to the clan. We could infer then that sexuality is associated with the individuation process of the person.
Therefore, sexual development is intimately linked with affective and social growth and development. In addition, it is the human alchemical process par excellence, the means by which two become one, the duality coming together in unity. That is why sexuality picks up our most genuine biological instinct for survival and, on the other hand, our purest spiritual aspiration of transcendence.
The more repression, the more judgments are used. It is easy to identify how we compensate our repression with the projective mechanism of the shadow and how, on many occasions, those who define themselves from the most absolute puritanism are those who most criticize the sexual behaviors of others. And, at the same time, they are the ones who most feel they must hide.
This tremendous repression feeds two polarities. On the one hand, we live in a society that expresses an increasingly artificial sexuality, in which the pornographic industry is one of the most powerful in the world and, at the same time, one of the most punitive societies and with the highest judgment towards sex in which, paradoxically, acts of extreme violence deserve less censorship than the simple exposure of a breast.
To illustrate this disproportion, we can see that, in many places, it is even a crime to breastfeed a baby in a public place. Up to that point we make the natural taboo and the most immaculate nature is censured. It is precisely this lack of integration of sexuality that manifests itself in the hypersexualization, which would be the opposite polarity of chastity, both excessive behaviors but with the same thread.
The taboo promotes deficient sexual education, which leads to a very high percentage of unwanted pregnancies, abuses and even STDs. This same taboo makes that, when someone manifests sexual dysfunctions, it is more complicated to express or share it and, therefore, overcome it. The conflict itself is united with the judgment towards oneself, creating a snowball that aggravates the situation.
The world of sex is punished and stigmatized, consequently generating mafias that control it from the shadows and that, what could be a regulated service, becomes a nest of violence, insecurity and cruelty. Precisely, all these qualities have made sexuality a reserve of our shadow. Sexuality has become a part of our being that should not be shown and, therefore, a facet of our personality almost unknown through which we can know ourselves better.
The only way to live an inadequate sexuality is to use it without respect towards oneself or others, to do what one does not want just to please, to live it as an obligation or as a means of acceptance or recognition … Sexuality was created to be enjoyed; enjoy it with the security and calm of those who know that we are developing one of the most powerful aspects of our being.