Unity Consciousness & Bioneuroemoción®
One of the most important aspects to fulfill our psychic and spiritual development and that is related to the concept of quarantine is the “process of individuation”, process defined from the analytical psychology of Carl Gustav Jung.
This process refers to become an individual and becoming one-self.
In our childhood we are educated in environments in which discipline and obedience are fundamental for survival within a family system.
All this must change when we are adults and this dependency is left to find our own maturity and responsible management. Not being able to advance in this direction influences many of the conflicts of adulthood.
One of the most important difficulties occurs when in our family system we do not find the solution to our conflicts. On many occasions, this is because many of them originate in this same system.
Some parents educate their children to be emotionally free and responsible adults in their lives. These parents do not ask for anything in exchange for everything they have decided to offer them in their process of accompanying them to maturity and understand that emotional freedom is the best gift they can offer.
The problem comes when, in other cases, we are subjected to a system of loyalties that prevents us from finding our own emotional freedom and makes us feel united to our family from guilt or dependency.
It is at this point that the individual does not manage to separate his “I” from his “familiar I” and, due to this, he never reaches his adult age.
There are people who can project guilt on us because we are changing and that makes them feel uncomfortable. The paradox of feeling that our freedom hurts others is then produced. That is why, sometimes, people become aware of it and feel they need a process, either physical or mental, in which they can differentiate for a while from their family system.
Quarantine, therefore, does not consist in performing an act of separation from resentment; to do so would be to carry on with, no matter how far we went.
It consists of an act of returning to the path towards adulthood and meeting those parts of oneself that we need to integrate.
It is not about isolating yourself and being alone, but about staying alone for a while making your own decisions without being conditioned by anyone.
This process, far from being harmful to the system, is a circumstance that allows its development. Freedom for one of the clan members is a wonderful opportunity for others to follow its example.
Relationships should not be based on need or guilt, but on the free decision to share time with a person. The decision to be with our family must change from being a duty to being a voluntary and personal decision of the individual. Once we have achieved it, we can be in the same environment without being affected.